Sexual Guidelines

Hello ladies do you take wine regularly? If yes then your sex life is …….. What you think bad news is waiting for you? Hmm! actually your assumption is not accurate because a new study has showed women who have a glass or two of wine every day get better sex lives than the women who don’t take. The research is concluded for publishing in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

The University of Florence (U-F) carried out a survey on 800 female between 18 and 50, who were asked to rate their sexual pleasure and satisfaction using the FSFI (Female Sexual Function Index). The FSFI helps doctors evaluating women’s sexual health. The evaluation is based on some factors such as arousal, orgasm, satisfaction and pain. It measures on a scale of 2 to 36 and ‘the higher the score the better the sexual health’.

Co-authored of the study, Nicola Mondaini said ‘historically, the aspects of wine and sexuality have been well known since the time of ancient Greece’. U-F statement said participants who drank two glasses of wine each day scored an average of 27.3 while who took a glass daily scored 25.9. On the other hand, non-drinkers average scored was 24.4.

Most of the people think it is a duty for a male how much he can make interesting their game in bed. That’s why; many men are worried how they satisfy their female partner. They try to do all what a woman wants, they never do what a woman hates. But if you are a woman … then I want to ask you …. Have you ever thought what your partner wants to you in bed? What he hates in bed? I think you never ask him but why? You should ask him as in bed it’s a game for both of you. Both of you participate here eagerly. You should know what your partner hate in bed. It will improve your sex life. Here are some tips that would help to learn actually what your partner hates or dislikes in bed.

Inactivity: During sex if you don’t do anything – just lie or sit down and wait for getting some bliss. That is unfortunately the nastiest thing you do and your partner hate that. You must move, in spite of your partner is on your top. Show your bedmate that you desire to have sex with him. If you appear “lying dead”, it may even create some sexual problems to your bedmate and both of you cannot get complete satisfaction.

Dearth Kiss: You must agree that you like to get kissed. Like you, your partner wants to be kissed. Why you forget that your partner desire is same in case of sex? Your boyfriend love when you are kissing his all body. That drives your partner crazy and wild. So, if you want to please your bed partner, kiss, tease, pinch; as well as play with him.

Non-dominating: Are you an old fashioned lady? If not, then why you think that you partner has to take the entire control having sex in bed all time. Why sometimes you don’t take the control? Sometimes, your boyfriend love to be controlled. You have to dominate in bed occasionally. Just show your beau that you want to get sex now, order him sometimes what he needs to do. Show him you are the one who can dictate the rules. Show you have power to control him. I assure that your partner must be much excited and satisfied with your dominating action.

Lack of Sensitivity: You should be dreadfully sensitive to your bedmate. I know you love to have sensitive the man beside you. Do not be egoistic. Try to do the same thing to your one. Your partner bodies are actually sensitive and you should do your best to make your man feelings as good as he makes your feelings.

Poor Caress: If you love to get extreme pleasure, keep in mind to give the same to your partner. To see your poor concern, maybe sometimes your man thing that you don’t care at all in bed what he wants. Care his feelings. You should remember always to ask some questions like … “How you like that?”, “Do you want it more?”, “How is that feeling?”, “What you want to be got?”, “What you prefer now?” Just let him know, how much you care his feelings. He likes to your attention and feels proud.

Hiding Emotions: If you don’t show your emotions to your man then he does not understand what you like or not. Your hiding-emotions make your partner confuse. Don’t confuse him if you want to get real taste of sex life. Be smart, don’t hesitated or feel shy to moan or scram while you feel like moaning or screaming from extreme pleasure. Get breath little bit harder. Make some noise, as that is the superb way to notify your bedmate about your actual feelings at that pleasant moment. It also helps you. Your partner will know by this way, what you love most and you must be rewarded. So, why late? Practice it.

Unfit Outfits: When you go to office what you wear? Or when you go any wadding party what you put on? You just put on a dress that suitable for that occasion. Like that, you should wear some exclusive clothes during sex. Your poor dress up may destroy your partner emotion and your sex appeal both. A sexy outfit can raise your demand whereas poor outfit can diminish your appeal. Never be bashful to surprise your boyfriend with different sexy outfits. He must like teasing about your sexy outfit and be excited about imminent sex.

Low Eagerness: Your partner doesn’t feel well when you don’t show initiative to make sex. You are not old fashioned lady. You do not want to prove that you are very shy person to do this. So, why you don’t show your initiative in sex? If you feel like to have sex with your spouse – just show him and let him know, you are an average lady who can enjoy having sex and can express her all wishes. Your eagerness on sex makes your partner much crazy.

Action after Sex: After sex if you begin to clean yourself and sheets, it is not a good sign for your partner. This attitude says to your partner that sex with him somehow violates your clean sleeping space. It may hamper your sex life. Don’t destroy the pleasant sex atmosphere. Do that later. Lie down on bed and try to get relax. Simply enjoy your feelings with your satisfied bedmate as you made an exciting sex, just a minute ago. Your partner doesn’t like your clean and tidy body in his bed.

Imprecise Talk: I know you love to talk either it is bed or anywhere. Your partner must love your all type talk but not in bed. Your partner may dislike you if you talk a lot at the time having sex in bed. But he likes dirty talks; it increases your intimacy in bed. He also loves the word that telling him what you feel like him to do with you and vice versa. So, try to deliver some precise speech with your sexy voice that increases his feelings about you.

Monotonous Activities: You should do some different activities having sex. Otherwise, it may turn a boring thing to have sex on bed. You may show some still porno photograph or adult film to your partner to stimulate him. To see that, he may just imagine how you look like if he do something with you such film or photograph. You may use some sex toys for making variation in your sex.

So, the lady what you learn from above? Can you now realize why your partner sometimes ignores you? Why sometimes he losses his feelings on you? The above tips will help to perform you in bed as a professional. Sometimes, you must be aggressive in bed as your partner demand. Try to understand his mind and feelings like that he tries. Remember, in bed you should not be an ideal woman, just turn yourself as naughty as you can.

The concept of masturbation for women has been misconstrued for a long time. Women usually refuse to accept it. Many women feel guilty even thinking it. However, few women get pleasure getting masturbate at times.

Masturbation can provide you the opportunity to explore your body and at the same time offering you an excellence sexual freedom. It gives you to get experience sexual pleasure and extreme satisfaction without relying on your partner. By masturbating you can get release from sexual tension when you feel you need to get a sex.

Actually, without masturbating, you cannot know how to please your body. If you don’t know about your body; it makes harder for your bed-partner to give you an extreme orgasm. So, lack of knowledge about it, you cannot enjoy sex properly to its fullest.

Techniques for female masturbation:

The greatest way to get yourself arouse is to set your mood for some romance and become relaxed. Never feel shy or inhibited to explore your body. Get a private area where you can explore the body and discover yourself. Try reading some erotic book, watching any XXX rated film or looking at several arousing pictures. Those will help you to make your mood for getting a proper masturbation. After doing that when you feel little bit sexy and hot, you should do the following instruction step by step.

• Relaxed your body
• Lies on a suitable bed
• Or sit in any comfortable chair
• Explore the body nude or semi-nude body
• Run the fingers and hands all over the body
• Explore and massaging your gorgeous breasts
• Play with your erect nipples
• Circling the navel
• Caress your legs and thighs
• Bend the legs and spread those apart
• Try some erotica at this moment
• Touching the inner thighs
• Crevice between the thighs and legs
• Cup the vulva in the hand
• Gently rub in tiny circles
• Try to stimulate the body ( but do not try to reach orgasm)
• Ensure yourself feel good

When you feel get tense, stop instant what you are doing. Take breath deeply and get relax. Practice it as frequently as possible, but remember not more than 20 minutes each session. As soon as you get comfortable exploring and touching your body you may go for more direct way of stimulating the vulva. For this, you may go following way:

• Slip the fingers between the folds of your vulva
• Massage the vulva
• Give different types of touches and stroke
• Very lightly kneading, tickling, stroking, or pinching the vagina
• Play with the inner labia
• Pulling on the labia lightly or firmly
• Slip the fingers up to the top of the vulva
• Set the finger on top of your clitoris
• Gently move the fingers up and down, and around the clitoris
• Wildly jiggle the finger in clitoris area
• Get the loose tissue covering the clitoris slide across the body
• Make the loose tissue covering glans of the clitoris

When you feel a need to get filled, please insert one or two of fingers into the vagina. Right this moment you may want to get yourself feel really better. Intentionally you do not feel like to try to get an orgasm. But if any orgasm occurs, it may be a total surprise for you. If you think to have an orgasm, you become to slow down and more relax with redirect your thoughts. It would be better if you might not get experience orgasm for the first few times. So, need not to do that. Just enjoy and feel the pleasures of touching yourself.

You can usually masturbate by arousing the external genitals with their fine fingers. You can stimulate your vulva and labia, with particular pressure on the clitoris. You may prefer to boost the experience by getting penis-shaped objects such as cucumbers or bananas into the vaginas. You should rub the objects in such a way so that they can stimulate your clitoris. Additionally, you can use KY Jelly or any water-based lubricants to make the contact gentler and smoother to get better in feel. A number of sexual toys you may use like dildos. These are run by batteries and come replete with vibrators. The vibrating dildos are treated as extreme objects when it consider for female masturbation.

Some more techniques for masturbation:

Using shower head: You can get masturbation in water. No need to surprise. The warm sensational feelings surrounded and you get more pleasure when you do it here. It gives extra excitement for the moment. It would be better if you get any pulsates shower head with multiple setting. The head and the heat form the water could make for overwhelming stimulation. You may buy any great shower head at a department store or local hardware store.

Using Tennis Ball: A great item for stimulating your clitoral area. Just place the fuzzy ball between your two legs and lay flat on the stomach. The ball works particularly well when you lie on stomach and allow your bed to perform as a platform to get the ball. Squeeze the legs tightly and cross the two legs at the ankles.  Move up and down as soon as you feel the sensation of the hard ball against the clitoris.

Panties: Nowadays you can be out and cannot wait to get head home. The opportunities where you are and you may use whatever get available. But be careful, you need not rub harshly in the beginning as that would merely cause irritation. If the dress is placed lightly over your clitoris you can achieve an intense orgasm with in a short time. The fact is that it may be in public but it will add extra spice to you moment.

Using Lubricants: Use adequate lubricants when you want to pleasure your own.  It will prevent a sore vagina and facilitate you be aroused much faster. Many women get excited modestly by massaging the body sensuously but you may require any lubricant for added extreme pleasure with faster response.

Thigh Squeeze: For this need practice. If you don’t get it before you need to research on it. However, it may turn in a fun in practice sessions. Never be frustrated if you cannot reach your goal in right away. Just get patient and once your practice would be rewarded.

Everyday Products: You can also some everyday products like your make up brush, smooth tooth paste tube, feathers and so on.

Using Toys: You may use some sex toys and vibratos for getting extra pleasure. Try to use reputed companies product in order to avoid any harm.

Awareness:
Several risks are involved with female masturbation. At the time of masturbate you have to ensure of the following things for your safety.

1. Never insert the fingers in your vagina with untrimmed nails because untrimmed nails can damage the inner fragile lining of the vagina. So, before masturbating you have to neatly file and trim your nails.
2. Insert fruits or vegetables into the vagina are quite dangerous, especially which are small in size. A risk of those having stuck in the vaginal tract or possibility even to enter the uterus.
3. Any type of tools with spiky or sharp edges must not be used for this purpose.

Some women get masturbate as they feel good. Actually it is the real cause. However, women with having strong sex drive may do it regularly. You should not go for masturbate to proof you get strong sex drive. Sometimes you may get masturbate when your bed partner is not available or even available. The reason is every couple gets different level of sex drive and physical intimacy. Maybe everyone does get proper satisfaction what she needs from her partner. So, sometimes they do it silently early in the morning when her partner at sleeping or having shower or when they are alone.  A number of teens are doing it just for feeling not anything else. There is no harm if anyone do it regular basis. Actually masturbation is nothing but placing the hands against the vulva when you go to bed at night or anytime.

A newly married couple never wants to comply with any obstruct which stand before their love. And there is no love without sex. God made sex natural and enjoying for making the love more deep. So every couple wants to enjoy their sex life with full pleasure which is so ancient but always gives newer feeling to them.

As a woman before enjoying this most enjoyable event of your life you must worry about your pregnancy. Here comes the essentiality of using protection. And condom is the best thing to use as protection. But most of the men and also a lot of women don’t like to use condom during their sex session. It reduces the pleasant of sex event.

So for enjoying a full satisfactory sex session without any worry about pregnancy is really important for a woman. Most of the time it seems that, a man never thinks about pregnancy before a sex session. So as a woman you need to pay full concern about this topic. If only the woman is aware about the matter then it can easily be controlled by natural way. Pills are great to avoid pregnancy tension, but most of the pills have long term effect. So you can follow a natural way which is much effective. And now the question arise that, what is the natural way?

Have you heard about safe period? Here is a safe time in every months of a woman’s life when having sex is tension free. If you have regular menstrual period on time then it is easy to find the safe time of your life. It is something like the seven days after menstruation starts and the seven days previous menstruation. The concept grows from the experience of various expert women’s life. Though, this duration varies from person to person; if you have short cycle then your safe time can be in five days after menstruation starts and the five days previous menstruation.

With the calculation of the safe period you must know the fertile period. If you have a regular 30 days cycle of period then 15th day after your periods begin is the peak day and three days after and before are the mainly unsafe days to having sex without any protection.

So if a woman is always alert about calculating her safe period then it is easy to enjoying sex with full satisfaction by herself and her partner. But always remember if you have irregular periods then don’t follow any of these processes.

You can give orgasm to any woman in several different ways such as

• Lavish your partner with kisses
• Give your spouse oral sex
• Dirty talking
• Giving excitement
• Warm your bed mate up with foreplay
• Touching, stroking and caressing her clitoral, vaginal and G-spot.

G-Spot can give to any woman extremely satisfying orgasm if you could stimulate suitably. It is relatively small area of great sensitivity and target for highest sexual arousal. The spot is like spongy bean. Stimulated G-spot has potential to take women to amazing heights of sexual pleasure.

Location: G-Spot is found inside woman’s vagina lies just about 1” to 3”just behind the pubic bone. Actually, it is existed nearly halfway between the pubic bone and women’s cervix.

Shape: The spot feels like bean shaped area of nerve tissue. It gets a different texture and ridged. So, the area is not smooth like other part of the vagina.

Locating G-Spot is little-bit tough but not impossible. Not only you but also your partner gets a hard time discovering it. A number of women do not even believe the spot exists though it gets every woman.

How you can locate G-spot?

Traditional Method:

To locate G-spot, cooperation is needed from both of you. With proper cooperation and understanding you can locate your partner’s G-spot easily. Here are some tips what you should do step by step locating the spot.

1. Ask your partner to get longish hot water bathe in order to relax every muscle in her body.
2. After the bathe, ask her to lay her down on the bed or sit on a couch.
3. Ask spread her feet wide as much as possible.
4. Place a right pillow below her buttocks for more relax and comfort.
5. Insert your two longest fingers into the vagina towards the navel.
6. Let the fingers go 1” to 3”inside the vagina.
7. Get “come here” motions with the fingers.
8. Press with your two fingers against the front wall of her vagina.
9. Slide the fingers from side to side.
10. Try to feel something like spongy.
11. Ask your partner to tell when you hit the spot.
12. Finally, your partner’s facial expression tells you if you hit the right place.

Using Vibrator:

If your partner is worried of wound from the fingernails you may use vibrator to locate the spot. Here are some tips for you how you should use this technique.

1. Use a fairly thick and clean vibrator.
2. Lay the partner on the bed.
3. Ask her to raise her knees.
4. Put a pillow under her bottom for her comfort.
5. Stimulating her clitoris with the vibrator.
6. After stimulating her clitoris for a while insert the vibrator into the vagina.
7. Insert the vibrator 1” to 3”along the upper front wall of the vagina.
8. Make “come here” motions or sweeping motions.
9. As soon as you hit the spot your partner will start moaning.
10. Make a mental note for the spot (about its depth and the location)

Using Penis:

You can locate the spot with your penis. Among the various sex positions, doggy style, the reverse missionary position and the girl on top position are suited for g-spot stimulation. In case of doggy style you will get the control whereas the other positions your partner will get the control.

In the doggy style, you can locate the spot in following way.

1. Penetrate your penis slowly.
2. Wriggle your bottom as much as possible seeing that you thrust deep.
3. Thus, the tip of your cock will have to brush against the spot.
4. Once, your partner will start scramming, it means that you hit right spot.
5. When the spot is located continue to rub the penis against it.
6. Finally, give your partner an amazing orgasm.

Some other methods like using sex toys you may also apply to locate your partner G-spot. Remember, it is essential to locate her G-spot if you really want to give her an exclusive and mind blowing orgasm.